Thursday, October 15, 2009

wow....

Yesterday I turned on Dr. Phil. It was one of those intense shows about Stay-At-Home Moms vs. Working Moms. So later that day I posted that status on Facebook and wrote under it, "why does it have to be one way or the other?" "Why can't we all just be happy with what ever that "mom" chooses to do?" This is what I honestly think... Well this status has got a few moms commenting back and forth and it is getting a little heated! I never really thought about the difference. To me some people work and some don't. For me, this has always been the choice. When Justin and I got married our plan was for me to stay home and he would work. We knew this would mean we WILL HAVE TO MAKE SOME SACRIFICES. But it was some thing we both wanted. We have made some huge sacrifices for this. I don't drive a nice new car and either does he, we don't have the extra money to go Vacation a couple times a year or even go stay at the coast for few days if we want, we don't have a huge screen TV or nice new furniture, BUT for us this is fine. Yes we would love to have it all and then some, but I enjoy and LOVE being home with my kids and wouldn't change a thing!! I know there are some moms that have to work and there is nothing wrong with that. My mom worked full-time and then some to raise us 3 kids, and if it got to where I have to go work I will. I still do work actually, just happens to be I have to work on weekends or evenings that way the kids can be home with daddy, do I enjoy this no not really but we can't afford to put them in daycare and we really don't want to. AGAIN OUR CHOICE! If you happen to be a mom that has to work or wants to work I totally understand!! It's tough out there right now and believe me I LOVE MY "WORK" TIME.. I never thought I could be just a stay at home mom, when I first got married I had 2 jobs and going to school. My life was crazy busy and we were always out and about doing stuff. Times have changed and so have I. My time away is NEEDED I will lose my mind if I'm home 24/7. I love my kids but I'm not even close to being a super mom! I always wanted 3 or 4 kids, after my two I'm SO DONE. I don't think mentally I could handle any more. I love them to pieces but some days I feel like I could run away and hide from the world!
It takes a very special woman to stay home with their kids, AND a very special one to go work and take the criticism that they get from every angle everyday. To me you do what is best for YOU and YOUR family. I watch a little girl and think she is very lucky to have us in her life and I feel like we are making a difference in her life, she has a single daddy and he has to work full-time to raise her. I think we all just need to take a step back and think about what each individual needs in their life and let them be the one to make the decision whats right and whats wrong.

4 comments:

Kati said...

Uh...maybe it's just my computer...but all I see is a bunch of symbols...hmmm!!!

Jamee said...

I changed the font so maybe that will help. It pulls up just fine for mine but Tambi said the same thing. Lets hope this fixes that???

Jessica said...

I actually DVR'ed that show because I want to see it, but mayber I don't now...
I agree with you, what ever works for the person.
Some days I would love to stay home but I also enjoy my work. The kiddos are happy so that is all that matters.

Molly said...

You couldn't be more right on Jame. Whatever works for your family. (and look at your beauties! They love having Mommy there!)